Separate Lives

A letter for a friend...

Many of us find it difficult to move on, after a failed relationship because we pretend and make ourselves believe that it isn’t really over. We still hope that somehow we can work things out and start over again. There is nothing wrong with loving a person but when this feeling traps us in a world beyond what is real, then we are bound to get hurt. Most of us live in our own fantasies because it is safer there. But, the more time we spend in this make-believe world, the more we are likely to be imprisoned by our own fears.

Relationships are made and broken everyday. Those who lose it are always faced with difficult task of moving on alone. What most of us refuse to understand is that we cannot move on without acceptance in our hearts. For as long as we still hold back what isn’t ours anymore, we cannot truly let go. Letting go means accepting the fact that we are alone now and what used to be “us” will just be “me” and it just has to be like that until we recover from our fall.

Give yourself a time to grieve. Like in any fresh wound, the pain will always be there. But after hurting comes healing and after healing comes a new hope to build our lives again. We can never be certain of our relationships because not all of them are built to last our lifetime. But we have to constantly nurture it so it can grow and we can grow old with it.

We should not mourn forever when someone we love leaves us. We fall in our relationships because God has a better plan for us. All we have to do is trust Him. Always remember that is only when we let go that we have the chance to get back what is taken away form us.