After a Heartache

(for P, you will pull yourself out of this dude)

Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone he/she loves so much will still wish against all odds to have that love back again. But, sometimes a love lost is a love gone forever. No amount of hope can bring back to life a relationship that just died a natural death.

Love can be very treacherous. After denying ourselves of so much and after standing up against the will of our very own families, love can fade without any warning and leave us hurting, wondering where we have gonewrong. Our heart can be blinded by a love that has gone beyond reason. Call it unconditional, but the fact that we are silently hurting inside doesn't give justice to the sacrifices we had to put up just to keep him/her. We cannot live by the promises they make. After all, they may all be empty and we'd just be hoping for a love that has long been gone, and probably will never be back again.
It will never be easy to forget a loved one. All our efforts in disremembering can be wiped out by just one insignificant display of attention that means nothing to them but may mean the whole world to us. We have to accept the certainty that they're gone, that they don't belong to us anymore. I know it's difficult and tormenting but our wounds will never heal it we don't stop it from bleeding. We have bled more than we should have. Now, it's time to heal, time move on. Acceptance is never complete if we still nurture hatred in our hearts. <
Set yourself free. Let your heart spread its wings and fly. Remember, it may rain for forty days and forty nights, but it will not rain forever. One day, the pouring will stop and there will be plenty of branches where we can find rest. One of these is where we will build your nest and start over again. It's never too late. Remember, we may find love and lose it but when love dies, we never have to die with it.

Mario Dimayuga - Proud to be Pinoy

Funny. Hehe. Pinoy at its best.

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Bill Gates organized an enormous session
to recruit a new Chairman for Microsoft Europe.
5000 candidates assembled in a large room.
One candidate was MARIO DIMAYUGA.
Bill Gates: 'Thank you for coming.
Those who do not know JAVA may leave.'

2,000 people left the room.

MARIO said to himself,
'I do not know JAVA
but I have nothing to lose if I stay.
I'll give it a try.'
Bill Gates: 'Candidates who never had experience
of managing more than 100 people may leave.'

2000 people left the room.

Mario said to himself, 'I never managed anybody
but myself but I have nothing to lose if I stay.
What can happen to me?' So he stayed.
Bill Gates: 'Candidates who do not have management
diplomas may leave.'

500 people left the room.

Mario said to himself, 'I left school at 15
but what have I got to lose?'
So he stayed in the room.
Lastly, Bill Gates asked the candidates
who do not speak Serbo-Croat to leave.

498 people left the room.

Mario says to himself, 'I do not speak
one word of Serbo-Croat but what do I have to lose?'
So he stayed and found himself with one other candidate.
Everyone else had gone.

Bill Gates joined them and said
'Apparently you two are the only candidates
who speak Serbo-Croat,
so I'd now like to hear you converse in that language.'

Calmly, Mario turned to the other candidate and said,
'Kumusta ka, pare ko.'
The other candidate answered,
'Mabuti naman, ikaw?'   

Love's Many Faces / Pretenses

By Tats Quiblat

There are so many reasons why people fall in love. If you ask people one by one, you might not get two exact same answers. In my experience in working with people, I have come to define and list down 19 possible forms/facets/pretenses of love that people often identify with. These things may not be love itself but I suppose these are the things that make us fall, these are the things that trap us, these are the reasons why we end up happy or hurt.

Most of the time, we clumsily and hurriedly "think" that it is love, but is it?


Catharsis
It happens. You got hurt. You were broken. You feel as if you're never going to recover. Then someone comes and puts all your pieces back together. Someone walks in to your life and heals you, soothes the pain, and puts you right back on track. In a different circumstance, this is not the person you would normally fall in love with. This is not the person you would feel any deep affection for. This is not the person you thought you would one day end up with. Yet, because of what he/she did to you while you were down, bound and broken on the floor, his entire presence suddenly gains a deeper meaning. You begin looking at him differently.

Again, be careful. Tread lightly. Sometimes, when you get fully healed, the person also becomes obsolete.


Adventure
Let's face it. You are not able to do that much adventurous things in your life. Well, that's not exactly a problem, right? Being safe meant you got all A's in your subjects. Your parents are so proud of you. You have the rest of your life all figured out. Then one day Adventure walks into your life. You probably met him through your organization or through some common friends. You begin getting to know each other and in the process your own self baffles you. Whenever you're with him, you throw caution to the wind. He makes you do things you never imagined of doing in your all-too-perfect life.

You begin with the small things like learning how to eat isaw or learning how to commute. Then you go on weekend getaways together. You go on hiking trips, restaurant hopping, bargain shopping, midnight screenings. You even go drinking with him. You then realize that your feeling deep affection towards him because with him, you are able to do things you wouldn't normally have done. But as soon as the adventure ends, what really remains?


Lust
No need to explain this, really. Here, what you might have thought as love is merely just hormones. He/she just fills your sexual thirst. You are great in bed together. You fit like bolt and nut together. (No pun intended.) Whenever you see him/her, it's not your heart that skips a beat but something else down below. With this person, you don't feel the love kind of giddy. Instead you feel hot, tickled, and bothered. That nervous emotion you're feeling, that's not affection. That's just sexual tension.


Comfort/Convenience
She's always there when you need her. She knows how to pick you up when you are down. She brings what you need before you could even ask for it. Your parents adore her. Your friends find her funny and charming. You never really regarded her as someone special but she kinda brought it upon herself. It feels good having her around. She keeps you organized, reminds you of your appointments, classes, etc. She knows your favorites and finds ways to give them to you. She's your bestfriend that makes your life easy. Pretty soon, you find yourself drawn to her. You begin seeing her in a different light. But is it really love or convenience?

Everest
You are drawn to her because you are challenged. She is out of your league. You pursue her knowing she can't be yours. It's the chase that attracts you. The capture is merely a bonus. You see her as a conquest, a dare. She may never be yours but at least you tried.


Mirror
You see yourself in him. You have the same family background. You like the same things. You went through the same pains and heartaches. You have common life tragedies. You went through similar situations in life. Because of these, you feel special affection towards him thinking that he's possibly the only one who gets you. You feel he's the only one who understands you. Watch out. Love cannot be based on compatibility and or familiarity alone.


Fairytale
You believe that someday your prince will come, riding on a gallant white horse and sweeps you off your feet. The birds will sing and the sun will shine and everyone will break out into song. Well, not exactly, but you know what I mean. The fairytale is someone you've always dreamed of. He's perfect. Your favorite song played when you first met him. You were wearing the same color of shirt, or you bumped into each other as if destiny has led you into each other's arms. You're smitten by the circumstance. But is it love?


Recognition
This one is also very prevalent. You are head over heels with her because she recognizes your achievements. She highlights your little victories. She thinks you're the best basketball player in the world or that you're great in math when you could hardly solve anything. She sees you for the good in you. She thinks your the best person in the world. She's your no. 1 fan. Do you really love her or you just love the ego boost?


Frustration
Simple: He is someone you could never be. Thus, you are drawn to him. Just hearing about the things he has done makes you feel that you have done those things too. You feel like an extension of him. He does the things you only could have dreamed of, therefore that makes him very interesting. Careful dear, he's not your pawn.


Pity Affection
This may be the saddest among the list. As the name suggests, love exists as a pity emotion because you feel it out of compassion for his/her situation. Tsk. Tsk. Tsk. Be warned. Pity fades fast. Once he's condition gets better, you'll be seen through the door.


Awe
You think he's perfect. He gets good grades, is part of the varsity team, is a student leader, and works with the poor. Or he's the go-to guy at work, manages to travel and do his hobbies, looks good physically, etc. All these things just leaves you at awe. Or it could be that when he speaks, he inspires people. Whenever you talk to him, you just want to absorb his words and learn the things he's learned in life. You floored. You're at awe. You put him on a pedestal even.

Be careful. Pretty soon, his cracks are going to show and you will realize he's just as flawed as you. The higher you put him up the pedestal, the harder the fall.


Trophy
Hmmm. Everyone was actually surprised how you managed to snag her. She's an "it" girl. And everyone is wondering why she chose you. And this is why you keep on holding on to her, to spite everyone else who thought you could never get a girl. There are so many issues you are facing with her and you're already finding it hard to deal with her but you still keep on. She used to be so perfect from afar but now that you're getting to know her a lot deeper, she isn't what you thought she would be.

But, you hold on. Because, ever since you two got together, you somehow earned a certain degree of respect from you friends. It hurts, but you know I'm right. Right?


Mystery
Girls love mystery. They are drawn to men who seem aloof, uninterested, and cryptic. There is something about mysterious men that makes women go gaga. This is just a bit dangerous. As soon as the mystery vanishes, as soon as the person opens up as required in the getting to know process, his "interest value" wanes. He's suddenly not that interesting anymore now that you know a bit about him. Hmmm. Were you really smitten or were you just curious?


History
You probably grew up together or lived in the same neighborhood, or went to the same church. And growing up, you knew you had a crush on him. But you lost contact after a while. Either because your family moved, or you went to college in a different city, or you just suddenly began moving in different circles as adulthood came up. Then one day, you accidentally saw each other again at wake, or at a reunion, or at a common friend's wedding. You decided to grab some coffee and catch up. At coffee, you can't stop staring at him as he talks about his whereabouts. You don't really hear anything. Your mind is wandering back to the days when you were young and in love with this guy who is now sitting in front of you. This was your childhood crush that got away.

Wait. Before you plunge into that bottomless pit of lovelandia, makes sure that you get to know the person first. Who knows, he might not be the same person anymore as the person you knew back then. You just might be in love with the idea. Your feelings were for that boy who grew up with you. This is a different grown up person sitting in front of you now. Wake up. You may love but maybe later... after a million coffee dates with him. You can't get rekindled over a mere catch-up, or can you?


Rebellion
Everyone thinks he's not good for you. It's you against the world. Your parents hate his guts. Your friends cannot connect with him. Everybody thinks you deserve someone better. Your parents and friends have a different person in mind that suits you best. And just out of spite for meddling with your life, you picked someone you knew would send your parents and friends ballistic. You chose someone just to give the message of "leave me alone!"

Now, now little lady. Don't dig your own grave. Parents know best most of the time, and friends know better. Plus, your dealing with feelings here. Not just your own but of the man you chose to play with. Unless you pay him for playing the role of "up yours" to your parents and friends, you are bound for disaster. That guy will fall for you so deep you won't be able to get rid of him. Grow up!


Substitute
This one's common. The only reason, though you may not be fully aware, that you are smitten with someone right now is because they fill certain roles that you missed out in life. Maybe you are looking for a father figure, or a brother, or a mother, a sister, etc. And this person you're smitten with right now fills that void. They act like a brother, a father, a mother, or a sister and you're hooked. Is that too bad? Not really. Its only a problem when it becomes the sole reason why you fall for these people. There must be more to love than just filling voids and spaces.


Proximity Infatuation
This happens mostly among co-workers, among colleagues, among people who work so closely together. You see each other everyday. You're together 24 hours a day. You attend meetings together. You handle crises together. You enjoy victories together. You share the same difficulties and triumphs. Wherever you look, they're there. You wake up seeing their faces. They're the last people you see before you fall asleep. You are almost always together. Before you know it, you are already feeling affection towards the person. He's smile suddenly becomes meaningful. Her face suddenly stands out in a crowd. All of a sudden, you're excited to go to work or come to a meeting because you'll be seeing him.

Be careful. This may not be love yet. This is merely Proximity Infatuation. Once you take away the social construct that binds you together, the affection might be gone too. As soon as the project you are working on together ends, the pseudolove ends as well. Once your term as officers end or once you get to be re-assigned to a different partner, the affection also gets re-assigned with you.


Response Affection
You were never really interested in him but when you found out that he was interested in you, he suddenly got interesting and worth your time. Watch out, you can't open your doors at the first person who knocks. Don't settle. You may be single and lonely but you're definitely not desperate. Or are you?


The McGyver
There's just something about him that makes you feel that everything is going to be alright because he's around. He makes you feel safe and confident. Nothing can fail because his there. He's always on top of things, is never frazzled, and always has a solution for every mishap. He's like a stronghold, an anchor. Nothing can go wrong whenever his around. And in your busy, frantic, and rushed life, that is very attractive. He seems to be the constant force in your always shaken world. Thus, you fall deep hard and head first.

But what will happen when he's the one who needs to hold on to you for strength and anchor? What will happen when one day he breaks down? Aww.

So, which one is your story?

Answered Prayers

Minsan may isang lalaki nagdarasal sa simbahan...

Lalaki: Lord.... sana po magkapera na po ako... tulungan mo po ako! Kailangan po ng anak ko, pang enrol. At ang gamot ni Inay... sana po talaga magkaroon ako. As in now na!

(at biglang nagmadyik) Ting!

Isang bag puno ng pera... iniwanan ng babae sa tabi niya

Lalaki: Thank you Lord! Youre da man!




ok... ok... imagination ko lang iyon. Pero nakakatuwa itong sign sa simbahan. Pero paano pag may ganoon nga... masisi mo ba sila? baka akalain nga talaga nila na biyaya yun galing sa Diyos. Pero mali pa rin ang kumuha ng di sayo... pero pag "galing sa Diyos" di mo pa ba kakagatin? ahahaha! (kasi naman minsan inviting din tayo sa mga ganoong bagay) Haaayyyyy... naghihirap na talaga ang mundo.

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I miss my classmates

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